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To Take or Not Take It Personal?

Don't take it personal...can be much easier said than done. Sometimes we really have to check the source of the messages we get, check the messenger of the words that are said to us, or check the person or people that are behind the things that are said about us. When you are playing or competing, one of the best strategies to use is to focus on doing your part, focus on your role, focus on your position, focus on how you can contribute, focus on how you can win, and focus on how you can defend. Tuning out the noise of the crowd is key, and yet sometimes, it's not so easy, especially when it's so loud or it's so repetitive.

The issue grows when we tie what other's say to our internal worth. We are conditioned as children to believe that our worth is supposed to come from external sources, and because of that, some girls are robbed of their power and voice, and some boys are robbed of their sense of safety in being vulnerable and emotionally expressive.

This shows that what impacts our worth is other's insecurities and other's emotional reactions.

1. Insecurities

Only healthy others can see the fullness of your worth. Handing worth to an insecure person is like handing a piece of glass to a child while they are experiencing a temper tantrum; it will be handled in accordance with their healing or lack of healing. It’s as if unhealthy others are looking at you with broken lens, they may at times get a glimpse of you, but not the fullness of you or the fullness of your worth. They will only be able to do so when they are able to put the pieces of their lens together, and those pieces come together as they heal, but they have to choose to heal.

2. Emotions

Sometimes, things are said when someone is having an emotional reaction.

Emotions are temporary; your worth is not.

What experiences have impacted your worth?

When you evaluate those experiences, a strategy to assist you in healing is really being honest with yourself about how you truly feel about your own worth. Sometimes we hear and absorb what reinforces how we truly feel about ourselves. Elevate your worth and you will be able to better dismiss when others say things that are out of alignment, and you will be able to tune the noise out and/or appropriately respond to it, in such a way, that adds even more value to your perception of self.

For more on healing this area, see previous blog entitled, 'Check the Critic at the Door'

Written by Kheri A. Corbin,

For those who can honestly admit they took it personal,

For those Black Athletes,

and the ones who genuinely love them

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