- Mar 30, 2022
To Take or Not Take It Personal?
Don't take it personal...can be much easier said than done. Sometimes we really have to check the source of the messages we get, check the messenger of the words that are said to us, or check the person or people that are behind the things that are said about us. When you are playing or competing, one of the best strategies to use is to focus on doing your part, focus on your role, focus on your position, focus on how you can contribute, focus on how you can win, and focus on
- Mar 23, 2022
Relational Seasons
"Nobody’s perfect" and "To love is to risk getting hurt" are cliches that can at times cause one to tolerate unnecessary chaos or avoid relationships all together. Yes, it is true, relationships are risky and hard choices to make. That truth can be clouded by the initial phases of relationships, which include admiration and pursuit. But when the newness wears off, and the comfort sets in, you're triggered or the opportunities present for healing to take place, you can feel th
- Mar 16, 2022
Thrown off your game?
When expectations are unmet, When plans change, When things don’t go as you planned, When people don’t commit to showing up, What do you do? Adjustments are like pivots in the game of basketball. I remember when I was learning how to pivot. How stationary one foot as to be, while the other has the freedom to move; It’s a metaphor of being grounded while going with the flow of life. Sometimes we happen to choose one or the other--staying grounded or going with the flow. But ju
- Mar 9, 2022
Evolving After Loss
I’ve been taking a break to find that woman that I lost; I'm learning how to value more my healthy familial relationships and friendships; Remembering that I used to just surround myself with people to claim a popularity, but didn't realize then, that I was settling for company. I no longer find my worth through relationships, so I no longer engage in just any old relationships. I’d rather be seen alone and be internally happy than be seen with people and feeling lonely and u
- Mar 3, 2022
Because of Slavery…
You may have been conditioned to be in bondage to something or somebody. People-pleasing, anxiety attacks, financial struggles, poverty, choosing lower standards in relationships (formerly known as settling), doubting yourself, going "from 0 to 100," hyper-independence, and believing limiting beliefs.. All of these keep us in bondage to something. If you’re people-pleasing, you may be in bondage to the habit of placing others on pedestals and lowering yourself in comparison t
