- Mar 25, 2021
9 Ways to Win While Grieving
Grief is not always tied to death or loss of a person. It’s simply and significantly tied to loss. As a Black Athlete, oftentimes, Black is the first aspect noted and recognized, and how others develop a narrative for or against the individual or team of athletes in question. The narrative of our Blackness is overlooked. Our stories and experiences of grief are not honored readily by society. Over the course of facing dual pandemics---the COVID-19 health crisis, as well as th
- Mar 10, 2021
Healthy Chaos vs. Unhealthy Chaos
When we experience chaos, trauma, drama, or adversity in childhood repeatedly, it becomes a part of our norm. Our norm provides a sense of safety and security. Anything outside of that whether healthy or unhealthy, good or bad, seems out of the norm. We even have statements that normalize and reinforce certain experiences to keep us from rocking the boat, creating necessary change, or as John Lewis (great civil rights activist) said “good trouble." As an athlete, you may be u
- Mar 3, 2021
Check the Critic At The Door
Ever received the wrong package at the door? Receiving a message from someone whether in person or via text or another method is similar to receiving a package. There is a messenger and a recipient. All messages don't get sent to the right recipients. Some messages are laced with insecurities, fears, concerns, or worries. Criticism is often experienced as destructive, and other words used interchangeably to describe critiques are put downs, feedback, advice, or negativity. A
- Mar 3, 2021
Armor is Heavy.
It’s different when you have to be in environments as protected, boundaried, intentional, mindful, mature, aware, and wise; Places where you have to be buttoned up and in high self-control. The spaces where you can’t just be you, but you have to be the evolved you; the "professional" you; the you that can't just...relax. Evolving is not the concern, but it does take energy to carry that armor. There's a weight to growth. There's a weight to the titles you have. There's a weig
